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Author: Ayesha Giselle Dornelly

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In our journey through life, we often cling to familiar identities and patterns, afraid to let go of who we know ourselves to be. However, it is only by releasing these attachments that we can make space for the possibility of who we might become—and ultimately, create the miracles we desire.

As a coach and therapist, I’ve witnessed the transformative power of embracing change firsthand. It requires a willingness to step into the unknown, to confront our fears, and to challenge the narratives that have defined us. It is a journey of self-discovery and growth, where we must measure our choices against the vision of our future selves.

“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” – Henry Miller 

One of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves is: What will I need to give up to find my way to my future self? This question invites us to examine the habits, beliefs, and behaviours that no longer serve us and to release them with grace and compassion. It requires courage to let go of the familiar, but in doing so, and as scary as it may seem, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for growth.

“Life is not about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

Similarly, we must also ask: What will I need to embrace and cultivate to prepare myself to receive this future? This question encourages us to focus on the qualities and attributes that will support our journey forward. Whether it’s courage, resilience, or self-love, cultivating these traits empowers us to navigate the challenges ahead with grace and strength. 

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” – Alan Watts

In order to co-create the fulfilment of this future, we must take intentional action and ask ourselves: What is the next step to manifesting our vision? This question prompts us to identify concrete actions and commitments that align with our goals. It may involve setting boundaries, stepping outside our comfort zone, or seeking support from others. Whatever the next step may be, it requires a newfound clarity and determination to move forward. 

Embracing change is essential for creating miracles in life. It requires courage, self-reflection, and a willingness to let go of the past. By measuring our choices against our future self and asking powerful questions, we can align our actions with our aspirations and manifest the life we truly desire. Remember, the path to transformation begins with a single step.


Ayesha Giselle Dornelly, is a renowned life coach and clinical solution-focused hypnotherapist/psychotherapist, Anxiety UK Therapist with an exceptional track record in personal development. With over a decade of experience in her field, Ayesha has established herself as an expert in personal development and mental health. With her expertise in mentality-shifting techniques, she empowers individuals to unleash their potential, overcome obstacles, and achieve their goals. A trusted member of respected organizations, Ayesha’s authority in her field is further validated by features in prominent publications. Website:

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